Can your good looks get you fired?
The case of dentist James Knight who fired an attractive dental assistant, Melissa Nelson because both he and his wife thought Mrs. Nelson posed a threat to their marriage; is a recent event that has folks nodding their heads in perplexity. Sadly when Mrs. Nelson went to court to file a discrimination suit, the judge ruled in favor of Dr. Knight and deemed that he did not discriminate against Mrs. Nelson.
This is wrong on so many levels it’s hard to begin to count the ways.
- This judge is setting a dangerous precedent. In one fell swoop the decision sends the message that attractive women are vulnerable to the same fate.
- This decision is dangerously close to saying women everywhere are subject to be told they are at fault when they get raped because they are attractive.
- A man has no responsibility for keeping his lustful feelings in check, nor does he need to exercise self-control.
- This ruling makes one human being responsibility for the inappropriate feelings that others may be experiencing.
The firing of Mrs. Nelson was extreme. It seems to me that other options could have been explored before her job was suddenly terminated. Couldn’t Mrs. Nelson be moved elsewhere? Couldn’t there have been written or verbal notification warning that a problem was brewing? I have to wonder if all women that Dr. Nelson comes in close proximity to have to be exceedingly unattractive before they can work with him.
Mrs. Knight may not realize, but her marriage is already in trouble if all it takes is the proximity of an attractive woman to make her husband go off the rails. I understand there were some text messages between her husband and Mrs. Nelson, which seemed to be inappropriate on his part, so why is Mrs. Nelson being penalized? I say wake up Mrs. Knight, the world is full of attractive women. Does she expect other women to hide their beauty around her husband because it might be a source of temptation and cause a bulge in his pants? Who’s responsibility is that?
Most people would applaud the idea of a couple doing all they can do to keep their marriage intact, but in this case, giant assumptions are being made based on what we’re being told of the relationship. Because text messages were exchanged, does that mean an affair was destined to occur? Doesn’t it take the interest of both parties before an affair begins? Mrs. Knight may have some things to be concerned about and she needs to address those concerns with her husband.