When we, as a society, hear the terms Domestic Violence we automatically associate the woman as the victim and the aggressor as the man. It is true women are often the victims of this horrendous and senseless crime, but it seems that the tides have changed and men are also becoming victims. According to, www.thehelpguide.org, a website dedicated to provide help for victims of abuse, one in five victims of domestic abuse and violence are men. This may not seem like a high enough number but unfortunately because of society’s stigma that men are “macho” the victims are often afraid and more than likely embarrassed that a woman has placed their hands on them. Embarrassment is a very strong emotion to us as humans and causes silence the most deadly and dangerous action that a victim can take.
So let’s to take a moment to analyze this situation, as a man you have become a victim of this senseless crime, keeping your silence is not only unwise but dangerous as well. If abuse has occurred once, more than likely it will continue this is not something that the person just “snapped” and it will never occur again, it will and it will escalate. If you stop and think back to your relationship to this person ask yourself, has this person ever made me feel like I don’t want to go home because just being around them I am on edge and stressed. If so, this is the first sign that you are in an abusive relationship. Silence not only condones this behavior but can ultimately flip the coin and you can end up on the other side of that 6×8 cell. Aggressors often blame the victims and have even been known to self-inflict wounds and alert the authorities that they have been abused. I have seen this first hand, aggressors use the” I’m a woman he is a man” stigma to continue to hurt their partner. This creates not only a battle to deal with the emotional abuse but now the victim will have legal troubles following them for a very long time.
So what do you do if you find yourself in this situation? First, do not allow yourself to maintain silence because you are scared or embarrassed, alert the authorities if you become a victim of abuse. Secondly, if the aggressor is arrested, cooperate with the police, let them go through the legal system, let them suffer the consequences for their actions. Finally and most importantly seek help, there are many emotions that you will need to deal with and confront so that you do not do the same to another person.
I will say this again and again until people realize this and stop hurting each other. No one, absolutely no one has the god give right to lay their hands on you, to make you feel like you don’t matter, there are no excuses or justification.
Take care my readers and stay safe.