It’s called SEXting!
And… Your Teen Might Be Doing It!!
I have been warning parents for over 7 years about this very problem! To pretend that your kids are the only kids in school that have not succumb to peer-pressure and trying all sorts of risky behavior is just plain DUMB!!
Sorry, but you were a kid once and you know what you did and what your friends did, and now in this digital age to think your kids are not being tempted is just plain ignorant. Hundreds of different things are being thrown at your teen digitally every day. Most of us would be shocked to know what is going on and to then find your teen and their friends doing some of these things. What are teens doing a regular basis?
With the explosion of information worldwide your teen has thousands of authors, bloggers and content writers telling them all about how wrong their parents are, serving up all kinds of issues and problems that teens are internalizing. As parents it’s our job to figure out what is being thrown at our children and how we can counteract or balance out what is being fed to our children. We need to face them now.
Sexting is a recently new trend among teens, born from the prevalence of cell phones, in which nude or semi-nude photos are taken and e-mailed. It usually starts with one teen taking a photo and sending it to their significant other. Though this may be a disturbing enough thought for most parents the real trouble for the teen normally starts when the relationship sours, or trust is violated, and the picture ends up being distributed amongst friends or even uploaded to the internet where it is often visible by anyone with access to the internet.
As parents we need to be informed, stay informed, and take ACTION… by talking to our children. Actually asking questions and then LISTENING to the answers, without judgment… pretty tough to do when as a parent you want to be right and tell your kids what to do and how to do it.
A few years ago if you had used the word sexting no one would have known what you were talking about. These days, though, the term sexting is all over the news talk shows and the internet. As technology advances it brings with it new dangers and trends and of these sexting is one of the most alarming.
As is so often the case with dangerous activities, teenagers think of sexting as something that is a harmless, without realizing or considering all the possible results of their actions. The truth is however, that sexting is anything but harmless. Some of the possible results of sexting are shame, humiliation, and depression which can lead to suicide! These are the personal reactions, however, if the school or police are involved it can also lead to jail time and a permanent record of a sexual crime.
Keep an eye on your kids… because others are watching them!
In 2009 ‘SEXting’ leads teen to suicide; Jesse Logan took her own life after a nude picture of her was passed around by e-mail. Cynthia Logan talks about, the dangers of “sexting.” Watch this heart wrenching video.
Jesse had sent nude pictures of herself to her boyfriend. When they broke up, he sent them to other high school girls. The girls were harassing her, calling her a slut and a whore. She was miserable and depressed, afraid even to go to school. Jessica Logan hung herself in her bedroom. She was 18.
Just recently the case of Amanda Todd’s death has been all over the airwaves. What is going on in a teenager’s mind that can’t cope with life? The teenage years are not a time when teens should feel like they have to make rash decisions if they don’t “Like It”, or that they have to make a choice to end their precious lives.
Their innocence is lost, and their dignity stripped away, by the cruel action of their PEERS… or so-called friend’s cruel intentions. But, the intentions of others are just that… intentions. Without acting on these peer pressure moments, these incidents would be eliminated…
Please teach the “Golden Rule” and talk with your kids about it. Children learn by example, don’t they?
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”
I remember when I was 18, over 30 years ago. At eighteen it was as though there wasn’t anything that could hurt me. In a sense I thought that I was Invincible and thought I would live forever. Forever seems like a long time when you’re 18. How quickly time flies by when you are having fun, living your life…
The key to helping teens understand the seriousness of sexting is to educate them to the possible consequences. The consequences of sexting can be long-term and life altering. Sexting can lead to psychological trauma, especially if the picture gets into unwanted hands or becomes public. These psychological effects range from feelings of regret to depression and even to self-harm and even suicide.
Speaking of consequences, no one is talking in Jessica’s behalf about the fact that the young people who caused this torment and harassment should be held accountable for and prosecuted for their actions.
Take the time to talk about SEXting with your kids. Make sure they know what could happen, regardless of how harmless they may think it is. Most of all make sure you let your kids know, that no matter what activity they may have engaged in, they can always talk to you about it. As long as the lines of communication are open, then there is always a means to address any issue.
Source: OSA eZine
Resource: Sex and Tech results from this new survey!