It was right around the end of November, in 2010, that record breaking NFL quarterback and alleged family man, Brett Favre was exposed for performing his most notable and foolish boner to date. He was caught and penalized for an inappropriate forward motion and illegal use of hands, in 2008. This is unacceptable behavior for any man, but adulterous for a married father of two and grandfather of one. Is this how we lead by example?
How the mighty have fallen. As we look back, I don’t believe when Tiger Woods was busy secretly arranging his many alleged extra-marital affairs, that he had any idea of the ramifications of his indiscretions. The weight from the hammer, that severely maimed his career after it finished falling, almost proved more than even he was able to bear. What could Mr. Woods have possibly been thinking? Dare we say the same for the 19 year NFL veteran, Brett Favre? It’s obvious that these two athletically gifted men were thinking with something else.
Huffington Post contributor, Donna Estes Antebi wrote it best, ” …Minnesota Viking’s quarterback got exposed for sexting and texting lewd photographs and salacious messages to a sports reporter. Kudos to Jenn Sterger for having the decency not to take Brett Farve’s dangled bait. Why is it so difficult for men to understand the connection between actions and consequences?
The Bible’s take on fidelity is quite clear. ” Drink water from your own well, share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth… For the Lord sees clearly what a man does, examining every path he takes. An evil man is held captive by his own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold him. He will die for lack of self-control; he will be lost because of his great foolishness. ” Proverbs 5:15-23
Usually, behavior like this is primarily attributed to how a child is raised. Importance of priorities in one’s childhood can determine character later in life. Most reputable sources say, a child’s mind is most impressionable between the ages of two and five. As parents, we are given an incredible responsibility to guard our children from the negative effects that they may encounter due to choices, good or bad, that have been made. Shouldn’t all children be raised to treat others the way that they would want to be treated? Luke 6:31 reads, “Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.”.
But, just like each of our children are different, so is the difference in the effect that parental instruction and discipline have on each child. I am certainly no expert, but who is? There are thousands, upon thousands of writers, just like myself, putting their expertise into countless articles, and some of those articles are expert advice and can be taken as such. But, with parenting, this expert thing cannot hold true. Each child is succintly different, and like the snowflake, no two alike. Our children have different personalities and therefore need different parenting techniques. God is fantastic like that! He has given each and every one of us, an individuality, a unique mathematical equation or arrangement of DNA, so that none of us will ever turn out alike.
Why is it that when boys grow up to be men, and they get to a certain age they feel the need to prove themselves. If it’s not a new car or a new hairpiece, it’s an affair, either of the heart or an actual physical relationship. At 35, Tiger Woods seemed to be a little young for a mid-life crisis, but as a childhood prodigy, he began to play golf at the age of two. This thrust into an amateur career might have stunted and skewed his relationship values.
Brett Favre on the other hand has not been a stranger to misbehavior but, he has an incredible support system through his wife, Deanna. In the early to mid 90’s Favre was dealing with an addiction to Vicodin. Favre, with Deanna at his side, publicly announced his addiction on May 14, 1996. Following his recovery, he credited Deanna as the reason he overcame the addiction. A trustworthy insider claimed that in 1999, the couple became estranged over Brett Favre’s drinking problem. She packed his bags and had them sitting in the courtyard, and told him “I’m done.” She called Brett’s agent, and told him to come pick up Brett or she was going to call 911. After the incident, he entered rehab for a second time and reportedly has not had a drink since.”
According to Paula Duffy, National Sports Examiner for rootshed.com, Deanna was interviewed on October 21, at ABC’s Good Morning America as well as Fox & Friends, and in concert with the theme of the new book, “The Cure for the Chronic Life, Overcoming the Hopelessness That Holds You Back”, she fell back on the subject of faith to explain how she is managing the rough waters.
“I’m handling this through faith, Robin,” she told GMA host Robin Roberts. ” We were talking earlier about a verse that I have on my fridge: Isaiah 41:9-13, actually, is on my fridge right now. ‘Don’t be afraid. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.’ And that’s what I’m leaning on. ”
Paralleling rough waters, Robin Roberts is no stranger to that “victorious right hand”. Born and raised in Mississippi, the youngest of four children, Roberts credited her parents as cultivating the “three Ds: discipline, determination, and da’ Lord!” Throughout school she excelled in scholastics and sports.
After high school, Roberts attended Southeastern Louisiana University in Hammond, Louisiana, graduating cum laude in 1983 with a degree in communication. She went on to become a standout performer on the women’s basketball team, ending her career as the school’s third all-time leading scorer (1,446 points) and rebounder (1,034). She is one of the only three Lady Lions to score 1,000 career points and grab 1,000 career rebounds. During her senior season, she averaged a career-high 15.2 points per game. On February 5, 2011, Southeastern hosted a ceremony to retire Roberts’ jersey 21. Roberts has since been inducted into the Women’s Basketball Hall of Fame as part of the hall’s class of 2012 for her contributions to and impact on the game of women’s basketball through her broadcasting work and play.
In early 2007, Roberts published a book, “From the Heart: Seven Rules to Live By”, and more recently it was revised to “From the Heart: Eight Rules to Live By”, and released in October 2008 with an additional chapter on her experience with breast cancer. “I’m a big believer that you have to put yourself in position for good things to happen to you.” She discussed the book and her Christian faith on the CBN.
CBN’s correspondent, Scott Ross, interviewed Roberts for “The 700 Club” and according to Ms Roberts, “Part of the reason why I wrote this book was to strip away everything for me. If you strip everything away…if you strip away my college degree and my awards, and who I am and all that, it comes down to being a simple child of God. That’s who I am. ”
We all can measure our success in life to the choices we have or haven’t made. As far as record holders, Brett Favre and Robin Roberts, are concerned, everyone loves a great comeback!