As a parent with lots to say, ha, ha, there is no reason to beat around that proverbial bush. It’s better to just dive in. With that, below are my 2013 New Year’s resolutions as a parent who wants to do, um, better.
1) Okay, so number one is the fact that I am making another resolution list again this year as a parent. It’s hard to bare your soul year after year as a parent -with faults and feelings and neuroses- so my first resolution is that I am making resolutions as a parent so I can feel better about my faults, feelings and neuroses.
I vow to make resolutions this year. If I feel better, it will make me better for my kids.
At least it’s what I tell myself.
2) Being hypocritical is nothing to be proud of, however, most parents are, no matter how hard they try not to be. “You can’t drink soda, it’s not good for you,” we say, however, we say this as we are pouring diet coke into our own glass. “You need to wear a coat outside,” we say, “because it’s cold and you don’t want to get sick.” The kids say to us, “You’re not wearing one!” “I am older and bigger than you,” we reply, but really? Do we really think they are buying that when we start sneezing or have an incessant cough?
I vow to be less hypocritical. I will drink my diet coke when I am alone!
3) No more yelling. This one is straight forward and to the point. And it is usually one of my repeat resolutions.
I vow not to yell at the kids anymore. Except when they fight with each other. Or won’t get dressed in time for school. Or spill purple grape juice all over the carpet. Okay, there are apparently a few amendments to number 3.
4) I love my kids, and I love when we have fun together. They both like to play board games, and I do too. So we’ve started playing games they understand and can do well at, so I would like to play more board games with them this year.
I vow to play more board games with the kids. Of course, when I am reading, I don’t want to be disturbed. If the news is on, or I am making dinner, I can play, but I won’t be at full attention. I like to win too, so no cheating, no frowning, no getting mad at me when I sweep the both of you and become to the highest and best winner ever.
5) More kissing and hugging is always a plus.
I vow to kiss and hug the two of you as many times as I want. And as many times as you’ll let me. Even if you push me away. Even when you wipe it off (I’ll just do it again). Even when you say, “Mom, that’s embarrassing.” There will be kissing and hugging, and I don’t want to hear another word!