It appears that a lot of friendships are going rather than coming. If you’ve been paying attention lately you’ve probably heard it said that it’s rare to find true friendship these days. If only that were true.
True friendship really isn’t rare; everyone wants to have friends. The key is who you’ll choose to be friends with. The reason why true friendship seems rare is because we are not carefully picking our friends. We choose people who we think we want to be friends with by looking at them from the outside in instead of the inside out.
Some of us may even try to be friends with a lot of people because we want to be popular even as adults. It’s okay to have a small circle. Having a small circle of friends gives you the opportunity to really get close and have a better one on one relationship.
You’ve got to find exactly what you’re looking for in friendship and not settle. There are some awesome people in the world but not everyone is compatible to you. We are not allowing ourselves time enough to get to know people before knowing what we can and cannot expect out of them. Just because you’ve known someone for years doesn’t mean that you really know them. And neither does that make them your friend because you’ve known them for so long either.
Have you noticed that there are people whom you don’t know but that are really friendly towards you? You know the ones, the people you don’t look at as a possible friend because you take their kindness for weirdness. You think it’s weird for someone to want to help you so you make friends with the people who aren’t that friendly, the ones who immediately talk about other people, may even be mean to people, and are ready to curse someone out given the opportunity. Those will be the ones you’ll say “We’re just alike” when you don’t realize that maybe someone who isn’t like you would give you the opportunity of growing and learning something new or maybe help you to be a better person.
When we choose to be in friendships like those stated above we run the risk of later saying “True friendships are rare these days.” not thinking that all those things that we liked about them would later be used on or done to us. Pick your friends carefully. And when someone does something to you that you don’t like, it’s up to you if you want to allow them another chance but remember, you also have the choice to love them from a distance.
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