“I love you! It didn’t mean anything, it was just sex!”
How many times have you heard this line on TV or in real life? Would you be able to get past your partner cheating on you & if you were able to forgive them could you ever really forget? Which sex has the harder time dealing with this scenario and is Vancouver known as a bad city for infidelity?
Why Do Some Women Cheat?
- When they feel emotionally rejected or bottom of the priority list.
- In retaliation to a cheating partner
- Lack of romance or sexual intimacy at home.
- Loneliness in their partnership due to work or travel demands.
- Weakness or self esteem issues (the sexual pursuer senses vulnerability in her & takes advantage of it.)
Why Do Some Men Cheat?
- Temptation due to a sexually aggressive woman.
- Bored sexually at home.
- Sexual addictions or very high sex drive!
- Commitment issues.
- Their partner is not interested in sex.
- Not receiving the type of sex they prefer.
- Forbidden fruit or the excitement of new sexual scenarios.
- Subconsciously trying to end their relationship.
While you might be able to forgive someone for cheating, both men & women never really lose that deep feeling of hurt & or get back the trust 100% in their broken relationship. (Of course it depends on what transpired for someone to take the risk in cheating outside the partnership.) It is never easy to move on & forgive but a onetime situation is probably easier to get past than a full blown affair that lasted for several months or years. This wound may never heal because they invested their time with someone else while lying to you for an extended period of time! That premeditated relationship will never be forgotten for the person who was deceived & humiliated.
Being the last one to know your partner is having an intimate liaison outside your home is devastating!
Cheating or being cheated on at a young age can be life altering in a few ways. It can either help make you “clearly” see how you played a part in it, or mess you up for years after depending on how your ego deals with it. Cheating can actually be the catalyst to subconsciously getting out of a bad relationship; but you should be strong enough to end it without bringing someone else into the mix! Breakups are difficult enough without adding the hurt of infidelity.
Part of maturity & growth is learning how to evolve from life’s twists & turns. This includes every person you have allowed into your heart; what did you learn & why were they there? Everyone you meet has a purpose as to why entered your world. Understanding the message will help you continue onto the next exciting path. Holding onto anger or continually choosing abusive relationships will only hinder your future happiness. Toxic behavior needs to be removed for a person to become whole.
When a relationship is in need of a change, the signs are usually there right from the start but many couples choose to overlook them. This is the dangerous part of a relationship when nurturing needs to be addressed, not ignored. It is so easy to make a busy life the priority over a partnership because so many people take their relationship for granted. Never get too comfortable that you think you can relax & neglect cherishing your partner.
It is usually a two way street when infidelity enters a partnership.
The importance of staying connected emotionally & physically is so important on a daily basis. Each person needs to feel loved & safe in their commitment. When this scenario becomes unbalanced & left undiscussed the bond is weakened and insecurities enter the relationship & trust becomes an issue. Talking regularly & sharing conversations about “everything” will help strengthen the partnership.
Sexual activity keeps the spark alive like nothing else & should not be ignored. Never be too preoccupied to show love to your partner. Intimacy & affection are the building blocks to relationship longevity. Never be too busy to throw another log on the fire to keep the passion lit ~ your partner should always be #1.
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers