So you’ve recently met the woman of your dreams. You told her how you feel and she revealed to you that she feels the same way about you. Well, it may appear that you’re strolling down easy street from this day forward. But you have at least one road block ahead. It’s getting her kids to love you also. What can you do to get past these could be little tyrants? The following tips will be sure to help you to build a close relationship with your step children.
Treat their mother with love and respect
This means no hollering at every woman that walks by while they are riding in the car with you or flirting with every good looking woman in the grocery store while you are shopping. Of course, her children want like you if you do. They also can’t look at you as if you are someone they can trust and depend on to be around for a while.
Tell them a story
Your step children would love to hear a funny and interesting story about your background. Doing so will help them to feel as if they know who you are and you may discover that you have some things in common.
Avoid bad mouthing the biological father of your step children in front them
You are playing the role of a father to your woman’s children. And along with it comes great responsibilities. However, dissing their birth father in front of them will make them feel as if they are bad in some way since they helped create them. Also, they may begin defending them.
Visit your step children’s school
Every once in a while, show up at your children’s school to talk to their teachers. Find out how they are progressing in class and if they are getting along with the other students. You can also discuss getting them involved in some of the extracurricular activities they have available.
Take up for them
Perhaps during one of your conversations, one of your children mentions that an older child has been bullying him when he goes outside. Visit this child’s home to discuss the situation with both the child’s parents and him to see if you can get to the bottom of things. Doing so will help your child feel safe and protected.
Discipline your step children when necessary
Don’t be afraid to admonish or spank your children if they need it. Just make sure that the punishment fits the crime.
Help your step children with a hobby or project
Maybe one of your children has to build a volcano as a science project for school. Offer to take them to the store to get the supplies that they need and help them to build it. Or perhaps they would like to play a better game of soccer. Help them to master the game by practicing with them.