Defining terms for “Single” include: not married and; a separate individual person. Although singleness is the natural beginning state of human evolution, it is oftentimes not easily managed emotionally for some individuals during their young adult to middle-aged years of development. This is especially true for women who feel incomplete and unhappy with their single status, choosing to compromise their boundaries or settle for relationships that do not honor them or meet their heartfelt desires. However, there are ways to be single, satisfied and successful when viewed with the right attitude and perspective.
Single – You are a spiritual being having a human experience and was birthed into this world through a divine process that required you to develop and mature in a single state (unless you’re a twin) from the womb until the dating stage of being coupled. Being single provides an opportunity to discover who you are and would like to become. Use the time to intimately know God and yourself. Singleness does not equal loneliness. You are always connected to the Creator, who intends for His creation to be interdependent on one another in love.
Satisfied – Until you are totally satisfied in your relationship with God first and complete in yourself as a person, you are not ready for a relationship with a perspective mate. God will not take second place and is the only true source of the love you desire to experience. Love begins with God and evolves into self-love before you are able to love another as God intended. Spend time developing your individuality and enjoying your own company. Engage in activities of interest and create healthy relationships that uplift, strengthen character and are fun. Being content in your single state will prepare you for companionship and attract the relationship you desire to experience out of love, instead of need.
Successful – Success is relative to what you experience based on your true desire and that which generates joy in the process of living, independent of what others think or feel success is. When you can be your authentic self, make choices in alignment to God’s will and your goals, and live life on purpose doing what you love unapologetically, then you are successful. Discover what makes you happy, write it down and affirm it verbally. Be specific about what you like to do, how you want your life to look, what it feels like living it and the actions you must take to make it a reality. Go to bed and wake up in that high vibration of feel good emotions. Create a mind movie to replay daily as often as needed.
You can be single, satisfied and successful when you make time to discover who you are and develop a personal relationship with God; become complete within yourself and totally satisfied in your relationship with God; and be true to yourself, living a life that makes you feel good doing what you enjoy.
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