Every relationship has their ups & downs. It’s normal. Every couple goes through that phase where they simply cannot see eye to eye on things. Does that mean you give up because you can’t find the solution? Some do while others do not. After arguing relentlessly for the answers the both of you need, you realize & accept the clarity of it all; it’s over. All has been done; whatever brought the two of you to separate can no longer be corrected.
Some couples will remain civil towards one another while others continue to bicker & remain hostile towards each other. Is this all because one partner is optimistic that the relationship can be mended or are they living in a delusional ideation of what once was? Is holding on to the love you feel for your ex partner harmful or idealistic?
Society has shown that some couples (celebreties) have gone & go through rather extreme separations. Those particular breakups have shown the world that when there is lack of communicaton between the two parties it results in heartache & bitterness thus leading to non-civil gatherings. Can all the drama be avoided if couples spoke decent to one another before the breakup, separation, divorce? Or is the tension something that you hold onto in order to keep on some level somekind of attachment to that person?
It is hard to let go of a relationship or marriage that you believed to be your entire world. It is MORE DIFFICULT to accept that it’s over when you refuse to let it go. It becomes your delusion if the ex partner does not see it your way.
My personal opinion is that if your ex is your ex it’s for a reason. If that person moves forward with their life and you still dwell on what once was you are only damaging yourself and everyone who see’s this behavior in you. Now if your ex partner does send you signals that there are possibilites of a reunion; then it is highly suggested that the both of you communicate with one another of everything on it all. It is best to be GIVEN optimism than to continue living in a world of delusion you yourself have created.
Whatever you decide to do with your life is your own choice; however when you continously find yourself in the same pattern, still hoping they want to work things out; day after day, week after week, year after year, speaking of the same person, non-stop, know nothing else butso clearly you have phased yourself out of reality and have become the “Delusional Optimist”.
Recognize your behavior, learn & grow from it. Don’t be another number to add to the percentage of people like this. Life is grand to be stuck on one individual. Your optimism should lead you to a whole world of beautiful possibilites. Never settle for something or someone that does not see you for all the good in you. Should you fall into that category of not accepting the reality IT’S OVER then you most certaintly will remain delusional.
If you’re relationship stands a chance at being renewed then I will suggest couples counseling & always speaking the truth about everything to one another; flaws and all. Communication is always healthy; at an optimistic view……