Q. So I’m a new wife, and I’m also completely new to the military, I wasn’t even in ROTC in high school or anything like that, so I’m completely lost. So my husband is away, finishing his AIT as of right now, but when he comes back, he will have to go to a duty station. And I’m just trying to figure out how everything works, if we go on a base, cause I’m trying to ask him to put his request in to stay within 150 miles of our now area (can’t leave due to child from previous relationship) and if I’m not mistaken, they’re aren’t any Army bases around here. There are naval, and air, and I think maybe one that may be a huge like meshpot. But that was the question, do they mix different branches on the same base? I can’t seem to find this info anywhere. I know that may seem like a silly question, but its an honest question. Or if it’s a ‘naval’ base is it strictly for Navy and such? Please and thank you for your help and time.
He will get his orders while he is in AIT. As for requesting a duty station, they allow you to create a wish list of 3 stateside and 2 OCONUS. The duty stations are pre-determined by his MOS, so if a duty station does not have a unit with his MOS it won’t be available to pick. The likely hood of getting one of those is slim, but it does happen. It is true that almost all bases/posts have at least 1 unit for each branch of the Military on them (minus the coast guard). However, just because a unit is stationed there does not mean that it will be your husband’s MOS. The next statement you’re not going to like but it’s the honest truth….the Army could care less what court order you have regarding a child.
Even if it were his child, the likely hood that he would get to stay around your area is slim. They would tell him too bad too sad. I would suggest contacting a lawyer to get that condition removed or face the possibility of living away from your husband during his career.I also have a child from a previous marriage with a stipulation that I am not allowed to move her out of the country. So if the time comes and my husband gets orders overseas, guess what? That means either I go back to court to have that condition lifted (which may not happen) or stay back here while he does his overseas tour for 2 years (since it would be unaccompanied).
He can deny orders as well (one time only). However, it will hurt his career if he does AND even though he denied the orders, his next set of orders could be cut with the exact same duty station that he just denied. He could also try to put in a hardship request, however, due to the situation not really being a hardship situation, it more than likely will be denied. Again, it’s also likely that the bases that are around you, don’t have a unit with his MOS in which the Army couldn’t help you anyway.
Do you see where this is going? He belongs to the Army now. You’re just along for the ride, and trust me when I say it will be bumpy as heck! Your best bet is to work on getting that condition removed. Welcome to the Army!
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