Today, it is rare to find someone without a child. You may have a child yourself. Well, you have to tread a new relationship carefully once you have a child. Everyone you meet may not like children and may not know how to treat children well. Here are a few tips to help you guide through a relationship with someone who has a child/children.
(1) Child/Children Always Comes First: This is the number one rule in a relationship with someone who has a child/children. Do not get angry/upset if your plans fall through. The needs of the child/children always trumps yours. If anything, you should be able to understand your girlfriend/boyfriend’s responsiblity. Being selfish by trying to take all your girlfriend/boyfriend’s time, will make him/her see you in a different light. It will make him/her think twice about his/her relationship with you.
(2) Don’t Be Too Pushy To Meet Child/Children: Someone’s child is precious to them and he/she will do anything to protect his/her child. Most people would want to date you, get to know you better, and make sure you are person they feel their child would be safe around. If you are too pushy to meet someone’s child/children, the person you are dating might think you have alternative motives. Just chill and let things flow.
(3) Be Repectful to the Child/Children: Make sure you always respect someone’s child/children. If you are going to date someone with a child/children, you have to treat the child/children as if the child/children are your very own. Always be patient with the child/children. It takes a child/children time to warm up to people, especially to a person who isn’t their mom or dad.
(4) Be Respectful to the Other Parent: The person you are dating may have drama with the person from a previous relationship, that resulted with a child/children. Do not add fuel to the fire. First off, you have only heard one side of the story. Remember there is always two sides to a story. Secondly, you really don’t know what actually caused the drama. Lastly, make sure you always acknowledge the other parent. Even though the other parent may not show you respect, show class because in the long run the other parent will have no other choice but to respect you.
(5) Be Supportive: No matter what drama, emergency with kids or just daily baby mama/baby daddy drama, be there for your boyfriend/girlfriend. It is hard having to raise a child/children all by yourself without support. When someone gets the support he/she was never given in the previous relationship, he/she starts to see who is really for him/her. Make sure you incorporate some of your dates with spending time with the child/children. Your boyfriend/girlfriend will be very grateful for the support and time. Your bond/relationship will become stronger day by day.
I hope these tips have helped you. Dating someone with a child/children is not easy. If you can conquer dating someone with a child/children, you are a very rare and special commodity. If you do not like children, then find someone who doesn’t have a child/children. Until next time.