In an intimate Chicago round-table chat with talk show queen, Oprah, – part of the most comprehensive interview ever done by the star, multiplatinum superstar Bieber discusses his desire to marry by the age of twenty-five. The moment is part of an exclusive interview that has been tantalizing the web. Oprah says that she has not done an interview such as this since her 1993 interview with Michael Jackson that went live in 24 hours. The full interview will air on November 25, at 9/8c on the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN).
In a clip released to Reuters, Oprah asks Bieber to rethink the decision to marry by 25, stating her opinion that the age was too young (either for him, or in general).
In a candid moment, Oprah asked Bieber if he wanted to have a lot of children. His answer seemed to iterate a theme of loneliness common to youth in the spotlight, when stardom may make life more complicated than persons on the outside of that lifestyle understand. Bieber mentions that he does not have many close friends. This is a stark comment because as Oprah relates, Justin Bieber “is a phenomenon for our time. And just like Elvis Presley, and just like the Beatles, and also like Michael Jackson, he has millions of screaming fans all over the world who adore him. But unlike Elvis, or the Beatles, or Michael Jackson, he is a star for this time because he has social media. Thirty million, nearly, twitter fans follow his every move 24/7.”
Beiber’s small personal group is however not uncommon of many “normal” teens who may have several acquaintances on Facebook, Twitter or other social networks, but share their most private selves with only a select few.
The disturbing moments begin though, when Bieber says, “You just feel sometimes that you just need someone to be there with you… that can be lonely.” Loneliness is a deeper connection to the need for companionship, which he must feel is lacking. Many youths feel that marriage will be a cure to loneliness or other life problems. However, marriage can often exacerbate existing issues. Effects may be more detrimental for persons with depression symptoms if they are not prepared for those possibilities.
When Oprah asked, “You ever get depressed?” Bieber replied, “Sometimes, yeah. Um. Not like, super, super, super, depressed; but, like, I get days when I’m just down and you know, gloomy.”
Bieber takes courage in admitting that he sometimes feels depressed. However, he qualifies his depression symptoms, saying that he does not get “super” depressed. Studies show that youths who experience depression do not usually realize how serious their symptoms are, or sometimes do not recognize them as a form of mental disturbance. The fact that he is willing to term his emotional state as depression indicates that his experience may be more upsetting than just being a little gloomy.
It is not uncommon for teens to sometimes feel down in the dumps, but when these feelings last for more than a few weeks at a time, there could be a more serious undercurrent of teen depression. Negative feelings of depression can result from loss of a loved one, family difficulties, perceived failures at school, or after failed relationships, among other situations.
According to Mental Health America (MHA), the following symptoms may signal teen depression, especially when they last for more than two weeks:
- Poor performance in school
- Withdrawal from friends and activities
- Sadness and hopelessness
- Lack of enthusiasm, energy or motivation
- Anger and rage
- Overreaction to criticism
- Feelings of being unable to satisfy ideals
- Poor self-esteem or guilt
- Indecision, lack of concentration or forgetfulness
- Restlessness and agitation
- Changes in eating or sleeping patterns
- Substance abuse
- Problems with authority
- Suicidal thoughts or actions (Males in the 18 to 24 age range have the highest rate of depression related suicide (MHA)).
Persons who may be depressed should seek help from a licensed mental health care professional.
Mental Health America. “Depression in Teens.” < www.nmha.org/index.cfm?objectid=C7DF950F-1372-4D20-C8B5BD8DFDD94CF1> 22 Nov. 2012
Web MD. “Teen Depression.” <www.webmd.com/depression/guide/teen-depression> 22 Nov. 2012