Practicing your talents and skills is not only an important way to enrich your life, it also helps you to NOT become a target for a potential bully.
Practicing your talents and skills benefits every aspect of your life. It helps you feel good about yourself. It helps others feel positive feelings about you. It also helps you to NOT become the target for a potential bully.
How do you discover what talents and skills you possess?
How do you discover what talents and skills you possess? Whether people realize it or not, everyone has talents and skills in something. Are you really good at playing some kind of sport? Are you really good at an activity that requires dexterity of the body such as dancing or gymnastics or tumbling? How are you at playing some kind of an instrument? Do you shine when working on a particular subject at school? Are you really good at cooking or creating crafts or sewing or at artwork? Are you a really good friend to others? Are you an active listener when your friends or family members express their thoughts and ideas? Are you good at helping others feel good or valued or important? Do you have some other talent or skill not mentioned above?
If you watch the auditions for a show such as “America’s Got Talent” and see the huge variety of talents that people demonstrate during the audition process, you become aware that there is seemingly no end to the types of talents and skills that people work on polishing and perfecting.
Why is it so important to practice your talents and skills?
Why is it so important to practice your talents and skills? It helps you feel good about yourself. It helps you realize that you have something of value to offer others. It helps other people to see value in you. It also helps you to NOT become a target for a potential bully.
You may ask, can practicing your talents and skills really help you to not attract the attention of a potential bully? The answer is a qualified yes. That is not the only thing that you must do. It is simply one of the things you must do to NOT appear like a victim and an easy target for bullies. Just like when you bake a cake mix, you need to remember to add the water and the cooking oil and the eggs. Similarly, your talents and skills are one of several integral ingredients or components of feeling so good about yourself that others cannot help but see your value as well.
What other ingredients must you include to not attract the attention of a bully?
What other ingredients must you include? Several of those ingredients are described in the tip articles 1-6 (The links are included at the end of this article). You must stand up straight and not slump. You must make eye contact with others rather than looking down at your feet or away from their eyes. You must smile with confidence. You must develop your sense of humor. You must remember to breathe. You must foster your friendships. You must make certain you don’t allow a bully to see you cry. Other ingredients or tips are described in the tip articles 8-12. Two of those tips include using good hygiene and practicing using good social skills.
A grateful reply to a past reader
One of the people linking to some of those ‘coping with bullies’ tips from a social networking site protested that it shouldn’t be up to the victim to have to make changes. He stated, “Why should it be up to the person bullied to have to prevent it and make changes? That would be like having to change who you are which is not right. There should be tips on the bully, not the bullied.”
That individual made a great point. It appeared that further clarification was necessary. This is the reply he received:
“I agree that in an ideal world, it should not have to be the victim who has to make the changes. I suppose one of my points is that we cannot change anybody else. We only have the power to change ourselves. So if somebody who seems to be the victim of bullying no longer acts and plays that role of victim, they are going to remove some of the power and control from the bully. In other words, if you act like a victim, you are probably going to get bullied. If you no longer dance that victim dance, so to speak, the bully will get bored with trying to continue dancing that bully dance, so to speak. Naturally, these are only suggestions that may or may not be helpful to everybody. Every situation is different.”
It is not necessary for you or anybody else to change who you are at your core center; however, it is important to hone and practice what truly makes you be you. Figure out what you are good at. Then let that true you shine so much that not only do you recognize your inherent value to yourself and others, other people cannot help but see your inherent value as well.
Using any of these tips is not going to keep you from being you. In fact, using these tips should help make you be more of who you truly are, deep inside. It takes skill to practice using good posture, making eye contact, smiling with confidence, honing your sense of humor, being a good friend to others, remembering to breathe deeply, finding ways to not cry in front of bullies, using good hygiene, and working on your social skills. All of these things will benefit you your whole life through. These skills will benefit you as a student, a friend, a future employee of a company, a club member, a team player, and as a person who no longer appears like an easy target for a potential bully.
Adhere to the army recruiting slogan: “Be all that you can be.”
In a perfect world, bullies would not feel the need to bully, and we could just meander our way through life doing whatever we feel like without forethought or intention. Sadly, this is not a perfect world. Also, as any counselor, therapist, or preacher will tell you, we do not have the power to change other people. The only person we have the power to change is ourselves. We do, however, have total control over how we perceive ourselves. How can other people see value in us if we see no value in ourselves? How can other people truly be our friend if we cannot reciprocate in kind and become a true friend to them? We should be our own best friend. As that army recruiting slogan states, “Be all that you can be.” Once we see true value in ourselves, people cannot help seeing our value. Once we truly like ourselves, we become more likeable. Once we truly love ourselves, we become more lovable.
So practice the tips suggested in these articles. Also, practice whatever talents you were born with. Work on developing new talents and interests that you can hone, practice, polish, and perfect.
What we can learn from alpha, beta, and omega wolves
Watch documentaries about wolf packs. The naturalists at Bays Mountain Park in Kingsport, Tennessee, explain that there are three ranks in any pack: the Alpha Wolves, the Beta Wolves, and the lowly Omega Wolf. As the author of Wolf Park.org suggests, even though the Omega Wolf is the victim wolf who is the main one getting picked on, bitten, and sometimes deprived of food, that does not always have to be the case. The Omega Wolf has the opportunity to hone his or her talents and skills so much so that he or she can “eventually work itself back higher in the rank order.” He or she can also work on its talents and skills so that the other wolves treat him in a more pleasant fashion. The other option the Omega Wolf has is to leave his original pack and start a new pack of its very own where he or she is the most dominant wolf with the rank designation of alpha. It all boils down to working on your self-confidence and practicing your talents and skills so that you can be the best you that you are capable of being.
A fun activity for parent and child
To further reinforce the importance of using good posture, play these two songs about bullies. Learn the songs and sing them together. Practice the skills indicated in the songs to make your child much more bully-proof. Here’s the links:
1. Click this link for “Anti-Bullying song for kids #1: My Bully Buster Song” on rootshed.com
2. Click this link for Another Bully Buster Song on YouTube. (Song is embedded within this article.)
Now that your child knows that practicing his or her talents and skills can help him or her achieve a happier life now and in the long run, it may feel like a worthier activity to practice and perfect.
Please note: This article was originally posted in 2009 under the former publishing tool. When it was discovered that it had some missing links and videos, etc., I edited it and re-published it as you see above.
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- Wolf Country.net – The Wolf Pack
- Wolf Park.org – Frequently Asked Questions About Wolves
- Norman Cousins Biography
Watch Anatomy of an Illness (1984)
Therapeutic Benefits of Laughter
- YouTube Movie called Benefits of Laughter Yoga with John Cleese
- Discover Laughter Yoga and Laughter Clubs
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