Jim Rohn, whose programs can be found at The Exchange in Cleveland, said that if you will change everything will change for you. He continued by sharing that change is easy. He defined easy as something you can do. For the question, “If it is easy, then why don’t more people change?” He answered, because it is also easy not to. He also shared the advice, “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.”
For the past few articles we have been discussing passion and polarity, specifically the difference between masculine and feminine energy.
A truly masculine man makes decisions not for himself, but out of love for his woman. When there is trust, she knows he has her best interests at heart. This is why being macho is immature. A woman may at first find the “bad boy” image interesting, after all this man projects confidence and seems in control and is a challenge. But the reality is there can be no relationship because his focus is only on what he wants.
This is also why the macho person couldn’t survive long, he would find himself alone. Macho is an immature boy, true masculinity puts one’s own needs aside for her needs.
Feminine energy flows and needs to know it can wash over you without you running and hiding. Emotional tides are simply a part of feminine energy.
Men crave feminine energy. Too often women have been hurt in a relationship and go into a mode of defense which is masculine which drives a wedge between a couple. In reality she is looking for masculinity in a man so there is polarity which leads to passion.
Remember, if you have lost attraction it is because you have lost polarity. The things you have in common brought you together, the differences, i.e. the variety and polarity are what bring attraction and passion.
If you are a man learn to lead with elegance. If you are woman, find a man who is masculine, your polar opposite in energy.( Forget any ideas of finding the bad boy and believing you can change him, or the wimp for that matter.)
Again, love is not enough to keep a relationship strong. You can see many couple who love each other but are simply roommates and buddies. The passion is gone; you can see it in their eyes.
Want it back? Learn who you are at your core, give yourself permission to more fully embrace that energy and allow your spouse to do the same. Recognize that variety is crucial in a relationship, and talk to one another about ways to more fully express your energies.
This is passion, this is relationship, and this is life itself.