For any Long Island woman who has been single over any length of time, you’ve had ample opportunity to think about what your perfect guy would be like. Have you ever considered writing a top five list of the qualities you’d like him to possess? Trending on Twitter today is “5 things I find attractive.” So why not apply that to what we find attractive in men?
Just for fun, let’s give it a try.
(in no particular order)
Protectiveness without being overbearing. The entire package needs to be here or it doesn’t count. Finding a guy with protect instincts isn’t the hard part. It’s finding a guy who can be protective and still allow those under his protection to live their own life and make their own choices. It’s great to see men looking out for their families, and it’s incredibly sexy to see them get protective over kids, but when they’re acting the same way towards the women they’re dating, it can sometimes come off as overbearing. Suffocating. Stalking even. What’s attractive in a man is having that protective streak, but also being able to trust in his partner that she can make smart decisions about her safety and doesn’t need to be locked up in order to be protected. He can be there for her when needed, and take a step back when he’s not.
The ability to cook. This cannot be stressed enough. While there are many jokes that have been made for centuries that a woman’s place is in the kitchen, it’s incredibly attractive to have your man cook for you. And this goes beyond simply using the microwave or the grill. A guy who can make a decent omelet in the morning and knows how to cook and carve a turkey around Thanksgiving gets bonus points. It’s been said that the quickest way to a man’s heart is through is stomach, but the same works for women, too. Especially if he follows it up by doing the dishes.
Being healthy and well-groomed. Now ladies, this doesn’t mean the only attractive men out there are the ones with chiseled abs and a wardrobe entirely from Armani. What’s attractive is someone who is taking care of themselves. Men don’t seem to realize that they don’t need the perfect body to be healthy, much the same way women feel. A man who is aware of his health and does his best to stay healthy by way of eating right, getting regular check-ups with is doctor, and getting exercise (even if it’s only once in a while) shows that he cares about himself. Likewise, someone who puts some thought into his wardrobe and doesn’t look like he just fell out of bed and hasn’t showered in days is definitely more attractive. Men don’t need to be experts in fashion, but they should take some care as to how they look. He should want to look good for you. Otherwise he’s just lazy, and you deserve better than that.
A man with a plan. With today’s economy, there are plenty of men and women who haven’t yet achieved what they want. However, a man with a plan for his future is attractive because he’s not simply settling for the life he currently has and doesn’t want. He’s setting goals and going after them. He’s also the man who is investing in his future by way of his education, his finances, and his family. A man who is already saving up for a house for when he eventually does get married is much more attractive than a man who spends all his money buying you gifts. As nice as it is to receive those gifts, you’ll be pissed to discover he has absolutely no savings for anything in his future.
Confidence. This one isn’t just something that’s attractive in men, but an attribute that is absolutely essential. Men who aren’t confident, especially in themselves, come off as insecure, clingy, and don’t trust easily. Anyone who’s ever had a boyfriend who called or texted constantly asking where they were or got nervous when they spent time with other men was obviously dealing with a man who was not confident in any way. Women are attracted to confidence. A man who is secure in himself, in what he’s doing, and the decision’s he’s made is bound to get more attention than someone who is not. However, confidence should not be mistaken for cockiness. The later is simply unattractive and doesn’t work as a substitute for real self-confidence.
Of course, one would hope that your ideal guy has more than just five things that make him attractive, but these are the big ones. While looks do matter to some extent, it’s a man’s personality and how he treats others around him that provides the real attraction.
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